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Book Review: Playing my Love by Angela Peach

28 May


If you like intense romance and well drawn out characters that you can actually care about – then Playing my Love is the book for you. A lesbian love story set against a believable back drop, Playing my Love is a down to earth romance novel and a massively engaging read.

Alison and her husband Grey have moved to the country due to a devastating change of circumstances which will impact both of their lives. As Alison comes to terms with how her life will change she meets the much younger student Darcy, who seems to understand and bring her out of her depression. A passionate attraction develops between them but also an all consuming love that neither of them expect. As their relationship develops tentatively – over some pretty hot guitar lessons – Alison must hold back due to her marriage to Grey and the secret she is keeping from Darcy about him.

Playing my Love is certainly a tender novel full of romance but also some laughs, and characters that made me read the whole book through in one sitting – I literally couldn’t put it down. The rocky journey of the two main characters, both holding back their feelings from each other, is an equally gripping story-line. Unfortunately there’s a couple of plot holes, or I possibly just didn’t relate to the character’s motives, but this didn’t stop my enjoyment of the book – I was hooked on Alison and Darcy’s whirlwind romance from the start.

The book has two alternate endings which I have to say I wasn’t a fan of, while they were both good reads they stopped the flow of the book and my engagement with the characters. 

Overall however Playing my Love is a great read, perfect for any holidays you’ve got planned lazing on the beach, or cheering up your afternoon on a rainy day in London!

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6 Signs You Should Run from the Bitch

19 May


by Anisa Easterbrook

So you’ve found a new girl, she seems pretty cool, likes the things you like, your friends like her and you may even fall for the girl. Hold up. Before giving your all and promising her the world there are a few alarm bell signs that you should be aware of. Everyone has flaws, embrace them, but after a series of unfortunate relationships, I obliged to warn other fellow lesbians when it is time to just stop, think and run from the bitch.


1. Possessiveness

This should be an alarm bell but not to be confused with protecting or caring. BUT if your new girl is checking your phone and asking who you are messaging within the first few weeks of meeting, this is a sign that something is just not right. Possessiveness means insecurity and insecurity leads to all sorts of problems. When a girl is super insecure it means they are constantly on edge that you are going to leave them or cheat and there’s nothing you can do or say to make them feel differently. Everyone has their insecurities but just be careful to notice when it’s extreme or not.


2. Confused about their sexuality

I realise this may be an obvious one but just bear in mind if you are a girl’s ‘first’ you carry a lot of responsibility. It’s a confusing time for them, we’ve all been there but she could freak out and either completely latch onto you fast or more likely run away from both you and her sexuality. So hold back a bit, take things slow and try not to get too attached just yet.


3. Leaving shit in your room

Okay, so she may have just genuinely have accidently left something in your room but if you start to feel like it’s intentional and 3 days after meeting her – run from dat bitch man! In my experience, it can be anything from an earring, a top or even shoes. This is a controlling method of when they can next see you. They might be like ‘well I really need [insert item left] this back for work’ or whatever and therefore be the deciders of when they can and can’t see you.


4. Hard-core Druggies and Raging Alcoholics

Yeah. Stay away from them. And don’t try and do that weird thing where you think you can ‘save’ her. You can’t.


5. Sob stories on first date

If this bitch is crying to you about some horrendous, tragic life story within the first few times of meeting her and she is not wasted, it may just be time to run from the bitch. The sob story type of girl is constantly seeking attention and this will eventually get on your tits and you’ll tire of constantly being like ‘oh babe. I’m so sorry’. It’s weird. Most people will not share personal traumas until you know them really well.


6. Lesbians who enjoy male attention

If your girl has a small army of male followers be a little weary, they may just be her mates but mates don’t constantly flirt or make sex jokes with each other. If your girl is this type she’ll flirt with men on nights out and it’ll become really fucking annoying. Run from dat bitch.


So girls, the last bit advice of you I have to offer of surviving London as a lesbian is: if you’re serious about it, look at their past relationships; how long ago did they break up? Have all of their relationships been short-lived? If so you gotta wonder why. And.. listen and watch how I met your mother – I’m not kidding – The hot-crazy scale is a thing. Study it religiously. Make sure she’s hotter than she is crazy.


Review: Miss Dynamite @ MissFit Easter Thursday

23 Apr


The bank holiday weekend was heralded in by the MissFit girls in style with a special party featuring Miss Dynamite. We headed down there for some 90’s vibes, pop and DnB Miss Dynamitee-ee style.

MissFit put on a flurry of nights over the bank holiday in what must have been a tequila fuelled extravaganza, starting Thursday through to Sunday – not sure how they survived!  Miss Dynamite was the first of the parties at trendy Blueberry Bar in Shoreditch.

I’m afraid I have to say the £15 “early bird” ticket fee seemed a bit steep, especially as I have seen Miss Dynamite live for less… but in the holiday spirit I bought tickets knowing the night would be fun.

I wasn’t disappointed, Blueberry bar was a great venue and the music was pumping with top 90’s tunes by the time we arrived, getting everyone on the dance floor.

Unfortunately however the night got off to a slightly rocky start with a less than warm welcome from the lady on the door. After ignoring us as we came in were then shouted at for trying to enter the bar… She stamped each of our wrists and after putting our coats away we tried to enter the bar once more and were duly shouted at AGAIN – this time for not showing her the stamps she had just inked onto our wrists not two minutes before. I wasn’t impressed – when spending money on a night out I expect a nicer welcome!

But enough of that. The night certainly got better and soon enough I was dancing to some great tunes. There was a fun crowd there with girls chatting away and dancing, the bank holiday vibe clearly helping everyone to relax and enjoy themselves.

At about 1.30 Miss Dynamite came on and all of a sudden I found myself at the back of the room having been stampeded by a pretty eager crowd! Miss Dynamite didn’t disappoint – she put on an energetic and fun performance, opening with her classics  “Dy-na-mi-tee” and “It Takes More”. Then came some newer songs but still equally as popular with the crowd such as “What you talkin bout”. Some early sound problems held up proceedings but she handled them quickly and easily. There was massive helpings of Garage, Drum & Bass and of course soulful singing and rapping from Dynamite. Mid-way through the set an impromptu rap-come-poem celebrating women hushed the crowd; there was no music just words – it was a great moment. But then it was back to business as usual with Dynamite jumping and dancing around the stage, getting the whole crowd dancing with her.

All in all it was a great night out and a fitting, if slightly expensive start to the bank holiday.

Review: SHE Bar Soho

25 Feb


Review by Anisa Easterbrook

As we all know and are truly sad about, our hometown Candy Bar closed down towards the end of last year. However, ‘out of the ashes’ a host of new bars and nights have opened up centrally, including ‘She’, launched in January. Run by girls only and found in the heart of Soho – the first lesbian bar on Old Compton Street – ‘She’ is helping save the Soho lesbian club scene.

I rocked up on Valentine’s Day to check out the new venue (and stop myself from drinking a bottle of wine to myself whilst crying to Adele). The door is discreet and if it weren’t for the queue of buzzing girls lined up I might’ve missed it. Everyone was excited to see the new go-to place.

The time passed quickly and soon enough I was heading down the steep stairs descending into what looked like a lesbian haven. So many girls.

Okay, so the bar is smaller than Candy, but it surprisingly fits a lot of people. Les-be-honest though, the smaller the venue the closer you can get to the hot girl you’ve been eyeing up all night.


The bar is split into two different sections. It is a dimly lit bar and lined with cute little glass tables, candles and faux leather chairs creating a classy, romantic atmosphere. Walk into the next room however and you’ll enter a steamy, rammed bar and dance floor.

Drinks prices are reasonable for central at £4.20 for a vodka mixer and £3.70 for bottled beer. The bar also has a varied cocktail menu and Sunday to Thursday it is 2-4-£10 on selected cocktails!

DJ Hazel Soze was the lady of the night on the decks and she blared out some pop chart toppers which got everyone up and grinding.

While Saturday nights showcase top DJ’s, weekdays at ‘She’ are filled with the best of the old Candy Bar events, including indie night Chick Habit and drag cabaret party Boi Box. ‘She’ should be a great new home to those missing Candy Bar.

Soho, do not despair, ‘She’ has lived up to expectations and faith in the Soho lesbian community surviving has been restored.



Review: Winter Pride

12 Feb


London’s first ever Winter Pride took place last week and we were there to find out what all the hype was about!

It was a long trip to Wapping Tobacco Dock where the party took place but we were definitely convinced it was the right venue when we arrived. Utilising every inch of the Tobacco Dock warehouse Winter Pride certainly did feel like a festival – indoors!

The warehouse was completely transformed with stages, attractions, displays and stalls. A games room complete with ping pong tables was flanked by a mini market and art instillation room. Walking around there were some fantastic acts on stage, dancing or performing burlesque in some amazing costumes. Over the top drag queens and performers roamed through the party giving the place a festival-magic feel.

A range of different rooms hosted some popular LGBT parties including Salsa night Exilio, One Love, Work and – my favourite –  Popstarz. DJ El Conchitas kept the party going in the Popstarz room playing some crowd pleasing pop, RnB and 90’s classics.

Refreshingly there were a lot of women at the party, in my view possibly outnumbering the men! This was pretty exciting for me, and is probably thanks to the hard work of event organiser Nicola Chubb (CODE, L-Wired), and her popular lesbian parties.

A couple of things let Winter Pride down in our opinion, firstly the lack of toilets! This was kind of a serious issue with only ten toilets to be found for well over a thousand people. The queues were long, but on the flip side I met some great people – nothing brings people together quite like a long wait in a toilet queue! Secondly the large venue meant that some areas felt empty, which didn’t help with the atmosphere. If Winter Pride carries on however we’re sure it will get even more popular, and these empty areas will be filled. Just make sure there’s enough toilets! (Have we talked about the toilets enough..?)

Overall however we loved the party and had an amazing gay-fuelled night. It was so much like a festival we thought it could have benefited from starting earlier and being more of a day event – with activities and attractions that went into the evening party. Just an idea guys!

We hope Winter Pride will be back next year. It was an awesome party on a scale I’ve not come across before and with so much effort and attention to detail! Organisers should be proud of themselves. They certainly gave Summer Pride a run for it’s money!


GGL Run down of 2013

28 Dec

It’s been a busy year on the scene in lesbian London! There’s been a lot of changes, highs and lows. Here’s our run down of 2013.

Theatre and Film

LGBT Theatre and in particular female leading casts and lesbian themed films were centre stage this year. Halbwelt Kultur was a hugely popular show based on the women of the Weimar Republic and dealing with some famous lesbian relationships, this show went from strength to strength this year. Then there was the Canne’s Palme, d’Or winner Blue is the Warmest Colour, a coming of age tale realistically depicting a lesbian relationship warts and all which wowed audiences everywhere. Other theatre mentions include Sappho and Spring Tide.

Candy Bar announces it’s closing

The iconic Candy Bar announced this year that it will be closing it’s doors in Jan 2014 after an increase in rent and the economic downturn meant that it could not feasibly stay open in future. Candy Bar has been open since the 1990’s and became the most popular lesbian bar in London. It has a variety of nights on appealing to a range of tastes and a few years ago featured in a documentary about lesbians in London, ‘Candy Bar Girls’. It was recently taken over by the Ku bar group and refurbished but despite all of this tough economic times still got the better of it.  Never fear however! Candy Bar will be moving to the Ku Bar on Frith Street! So no need to panic ladies, Candy Bar’s new incarnation will be with us soon with a host of parties in Soho for women!

New bars and nights

A host of exciting and innovative new nights appeared this year including the fun and fancy free TLC, the concept night, Create, and new east London night Culture Clash. Plus of course new bar Labels on Frith Street – another great space for lesbians in the heart of Soho.

Special mentions

Lot’s of exciting parties have been on for lesbians this year making 2013 a more eclectic one for lesbians looking for great nights out. Chica Bonita appeared at Candy Bar with it’s special brand of female party, celebrating women with some very talented dancers and performers. Unskinny Bop moved back to it’s spiritual home at the Star of Bethnal Green pub and is still going strong as one of the best queer nights on the scene. Live music night Chick Habit at Candy Bar managed to bag Chvrches singer Lauren Mayberry for a DJ set, and band HAIM. Cabaret and queer nights took hold at Candy Bar with Adam All Drag’s (@AdamAll_Drag) special brand of party – Boi Box. Other nights still drawing in the London lesbian crowd in droves include our faves Southbank Surfing, Bijou Cocktail Social and Bar Wotever.

Looking forward

Next year should see some fantastic nights lined up including the Lesbian Prom in March – a huge event at Scala; plus the first ever Winter Pride from the L-Wired ladies. With Candy Bar moving to Frith street we can’t wait to see what nights they’ll have on for us there, plus who knows what’s in store all over London?? We’ll be sure to let you know!

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Interview: Behind the scenes of ‘She Walks in Beauty’

23 Nov


We’ve all dreamt about being in the movies, right? Come on admit it, you’ve thought about your name up in lights starring in a fantastic success of a film. It’s a fun dream, but how about making it a reality? What if I told you a critically acclaimed director is on the hunt for a new star, that auditions were open to anyone however much acting experience you have; and on top of this the project is a great new film depicting lesbians in an innovative and exciting new way. Believe it or not this is actually happening. The film in question is ‘She Walks in Beauty’, to be directed by the award winning Nicole Conn. The audition process is a tried and tested formula that previously discovered Jessica Clark, who went on to star in ‘A Perfect Ending’ and vampire series ‘True Blood’. But auditions are only the beginning of what is shaping up to be a fantastic film that won’t be your average lesbian flick. She Walks in Beauty promises to be a bold statement in the world of LGBT and particularly lesbian movies, changing the way lesbians are depicted and taking us into the mainstream.

We wanted to find out more about this intriguing project and audition  process, so we caught up with the people behind it; Elaine Sturgess, executive producer of the film, and Juliette Prais, MD of Pink Lobster Dating, the fantastic ‘femme for femme’ dating site, and the only site where you can upload your video auditions for ‘She Walks in Beauty’.


What inspired you to get involved in this project with Nicole Conn to find a new actress for her movie?

 JP: When Elaine, the executive producer, got in touch about this project I was incredibly excited about getting involved. Elaine believes in the importance of working together as a community, and this is also our ethos at Pink Lobster Dating.  We love working with both individuals and organisations in order to promote LGBTQ causes and opportunities. For me it is vital that we work together to get lesbian movies more widespread. It is also wonderful to give women who would not otherwise get the opportunity, to audition for roles of this magnitude. The fact that I can help find the next big star through the means of video auditioning on Pink Lobster Dating is an added bonus!

 ES: I watched Elena Undone (2010, Directed by Nicole Conn) two years ago and it had a deep impact on me because it echoed my story with my partner – and so I got in touch with Nicole and ended up donating to the making of A Perfect Ending. After going to the premiers of the movie in San Francisco and LA and spending time with Nicole over the last year, we decided to join forces in the making of her new movie She Walks in Beauty.

What is ‘She Walks in Beauty’ about?

ES: It’s the tale of two women, whose stories are an echo of each other, set a century apart. Spencer is an ambitious driven woman who finds success in Hollywood and gets sucked into the hedonistic lifestyle, eventually losing everything in a whirl of sexual abandon, drink and drugs. She moves to a remote cottage on the East coast and reflects on her past to try to find out what drove her to the destruction in her life and in doing so, she returns to what she loves and knows best – writing. She pens the story of Byron, set in the louche world of 1920’s literary Paris – and in doing so reconnects with her life and soul.

So… anyone can audition??

 JP: I was amazed when I discovered how easy it is to audition. It still doesn’t seem real, but it is! All women of any age and sexuality can apply and it’s so wonderful that we can offer the chance for applicants to video audition on Pink Lobster Dating. There has been a lot of interest so far and women are genuinely excited about the incredible opportunities available. Still I think many don’t believe it…!

 ES: Literally anyone can apply, whether they have previous acting experience or not. Pink Lobster Dating have set up a great way to do that because they have the video upload facility – it’s great for us in casting terms to be able to see those who are wanting to have their chance in the spotlight. All submissions will also go through the www.shewalksnbeautymovie.com website and we will select around 100 to read for one of the roles at the iConn Movie Convention in Brighton on the weekend of 11th/12th January 2014. We’ll then call back around 30 for chemistry sessions (kissing!) and then a shortlist of 20 will be open to a vote online.


What do you think of the lesbian movies that are around today?

JP: The biggest problem is the presumption that lesbian movies are either porn or made for men or both. Or they go the other way and can often become a political statement. We need more films showing women falling in love – simple. We also need lesbian movies to be accepted in the mainstream so that their budgets can increase thereby providing opportunities to make more high quality movies in this genre.  It’s also important that the LGBTQ community gains more role models as there are currently not enough in the UK.

ES: There aren’t enough (and most certainly not enough in the UK!)  and there’s a real mix of quality. Mainly because funding for these projects is so limited and resources generally are very thin on the ground. Standards are improving, slowly, but it’s essential that we start to expand beyond the lesbian niche into the mainstream to encourage more funding and support for this genre. Hopefully the exposure of movies like Blue is the Warmest Colour, despite all the contentious issues around it, will help to start addressing this.

What makes ‘She walks in beauty’ different??

 JP:  It’s set as both a modern and period piece. What makes Nicole Conn’s movies different in general is her way of highlighting that we can sometimes fall in love with the person regardless of our supposed sexualities. She therefore shows the reality of sexual fluidity amongst women. Importantly for us at Pink Lobster Dating she also shows women of all types and does not maintain age old stereotyping of lesbians. It also gives women in the UK a chance to feature in a Hollywood movie without having to live in LA and go through the gruelling processes over there!

ES: It’s the first transatlantic project for Nicole – and it’s an epic!

What direction would you like to see lesbian movies go?

JP: Ideally we would have movies with both lesbians and heterosexuals as the main characters. They would also not be labelled ‘lesbian’ and seen as ‘genre’ films. They would simply be romantic movies and be granted the same respect as heterosexual movies. Hopefully in the long term when lesbians stop being constantly seen as male fantasy figures, women falling in love in the movies will be able to be appreciated in the right way!

ES: Encouraging audiences to accept that they are compelling and interesting stories in their own right rather than focusing on the central characters being lesbian is the core challenge. It’s a long process and unfortunately with limited resources at our disposal, getting the message out is really tough. We have found that with A Perfect Ending and Elena Undone, once we are able to get the movies in front of mainstream audiences, they appreciate it for its story and Nicole has had letters from many people letting her know that it has changed their perceptions and attitudes. It’s a battle worth fighting.


What’s your goal for making She Walks in Beauty?

 ES: We want to make She Walks in Beauty the biggest selling lesbian movie ever and create ways to expand reach to have our stories heard to a wider audience. It’s a serious challenge to secure both mainstream media coverage and distribution for movies in this genre and our aim is break down some of the barriers.

JP: It is vital that we work to help bring lesbian movies to the mainstream. This unique concept of open auditions for anyone, enables a wider press angle and therefore hopefully the chance for everyone to learn about lesbian genre films and not simply lesbians. I watch romantic movies about heterosexuals and thoroughly enjoy them; why should this not be the other way around as well?!

* Juliette Prais has updated with the following announcement: ‘The casting and convention in the UK are being postponed due to Nicole Conn’s announcement about her son’s health issues.  All auditions on Pink Lobster Dating will continue to be forwarded onto Elaine, the Executive Producer.  Pink Lobster Dating will make an announcement on the site with more details once they have been released.’


Chica Bonita – Review!

1 Nov


This week saw the return of monthly night Chica Bonita, landing itself once again at Candy Bar with a bang for a Halloween special – and we were there to party with the CB girls!

Chica Bonita is a new take on the average girl night out. It has a definite identity and ethos, which is to celebrate femininity – and have fun while doing it! Modelled on a gentlemen’s club, Chica Bonita has tailored it’s night for women, whether they are gay, bisexual or curious.

The stand out feature that makes the Chica Bonita experience are the array of dancers who perform throughout the night. Wearing amazing costumes (which don’t stay on for long), the dancers salsa, twirl and acrobat their way through some top tunes, as well as doing things with a pole you wouldn’t think possible within the laws of gravity.

The performers are specially picked for the Chica Bonita night to appeal to an all female clientele, their acts being more than just a striptease. Dancer Domino is one example, her sexy androgynous style coupled with her ‘wow’ inducing dance moves is not something you’d see in Spearmint Rhino… The ladies were definitely falling for her, bit like a stack of – well – dominoes. (Sorry…)

Chica Bonita also employs some great live music acts, including singers, bands and this month, rap artist Elektric (Twitter- @E1ektric). At one point Elektric’s act was mingled with a dance performance to create an erotic rap act, something I’ve never come across before don’t think I’m likely to again!

The atmosphere on the night was relaxed and fun as well as pretty sensual with the dancers floating around the dance floor after each of their performances. A refreshingly varied mix of women made up the night ranging from all ages. The music – this week provided by the fab Izzy Trixx – also varied from top 40 pop and RnB to some dark gothic rock that blended with the performances on stage.

I had a great night, meeting new people, watching some fantastic acts and even getting to chat up not one, but two gorgeous dancers! Mind you, this is a usual night out for me, I’m always beset with beautiful performers to chat up. Ok maybe not – but this was made possible at Chica Bonita! So get down there next time it’s on and enjoy the experience!

Top 5 mid-week nights out!

12 Oct

This post originally appeared on the Dattch website – Dattch is the social app for lesbians – Check it out!

The Girl Guide London team have taken over this week’s Top 5 and are telling us about the best mid-week nights out, because Tuesdays are the new Fridays, right?

We’ve all had that Sunday night feeling; it’s  been a blast, you’ve had a couple of fab nights out  and survived the hangover, but now the weekend’s over – and you’ve got a full five working days until it’s back again.  But why wait for the weekend? There are some great nights out just for us girls pretty much every day of the week! If you’ve got the stamina, here’s the Girl Guide London list of top 5 mid week parties.

chick habit

Chick Habit  (Thursdays at Candy Bar) -Long running indie and live music night, Chick Habit at Candy Bar is a fun night out and a great warm-up to the weekend. Boasting some amazingly talented singers and DJs, Chick Habit is refreshingly different to the usual lesbian party offerings. A combination of cool music, drinks and of course girls, makes this the perfect party – and not on a weekend!


bar wotever

Bar Wotever (Tuesdays Royal Vauxhall Tavern) –  Queer night Bar Wotever from Woteverworld is a fun fuelled night where anything goes. Filled with cabaret acts, performance, dance and music you are guaranteed to be entertained. Woteverworld have cultivated a budding community of performers and guests making this night relaxed and fun. Don’t miss their queer film fests too!


chica bonita

Chica Bonita (Monthly, Wednesday at Candy Bar) – This is a fairly new night to London but it has burst onto the scene with a bang. Modelling itself as an exclusive ladies club this is a sexy, sensual night out complete with beautiful dancers, live music, and a sophisticated but relaxed atmosphere. A great location for dates and intimate drinks, check out CB – we’re keeping our eye on this one!


blue monday

Blue Mondays (Monthly, Mondays at The Boogaloo) – Cheer up your Mondays with this excellent live music night. Let yourself relax in the cool atmosphere of The Boogaloo and listen to the sultry sounds of Miri Hersh, Rosered, Vans and guests. Chilled out, fun and boasting some excellent music, Blue Mondays is a great night to look forward to when feeling those Sunday blues!


ruby tuesdays

Ruby Tuesdays  (Tuesdays at Ku Bar) – This list just wouldn’t be complete without Ruby! A staple and firm favourite, Ruby Tuesdays is the perfect party to liven up your week. With DJs Sandra D and Izzy Trixx playing the best top 40 and RnB, plus hot women taking up every inch of the dance floor, you can rely on Ruby for a fun-filled night. So throw caution to the wind, down that shot and resign yourself to the hangover at work – it’ll be worth it!

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